Talking Tiger , Hidden Agendas

From espn.com just moments ago:

"Tiger Woods will break his silence Friday, at which time he will speak to a small circle of confidantes in Florida and apologize for his behavior and discuss his plans for the future."

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I guess that little stint at the sex rehab clinic in Hattiesburg, MS seems to have done the trick. (no pun intended)

In an interview with ESPN, writer Benoit Denizet-Lewis, who spent some time in a couple of rehab clinics about 5 years ago, says "I wish I wasn't an expert on this (sex addiction). I wish I wasn't on talking about this."

BULL. SHIT.

First, he's got a book to sell - "America Anonymous: Eight Addicts in Search of a Life". Every national TV appearance is free advertising.

And second, who doesn't want to have more sex? With rare exception, anyone who claims he's too addicted to sex is lying. Note: I do not consider the consumption or overconsumption of pornography to be analogous to actual sex, but it appears that Denizet-Lewis and other so-called 'addiction experts' lump them into the same category.

That makes sense. After all, in America, it's all about being diagnosed with something. If we can give you a label or a diagnosis, then we can do two things:

1) grant you an excuse for your destructive behavior and
2) sell you drugs or some other type of therapy

Obviously, there are differences between a psychological addiction and a physical addiction, and some people do have one or both. When talking about addictions, I think they're only a problem when they dramatically affect other areas of your life for the worse. If you need sexual stimulation 18 hours a day, every day, then you're probably an addict. But if you only need 2 hours a day and that need is being met either physically or mentally, I don't see a problem. It fits nicely into your daily schedule and you lead a well-structured life around your supposed 'addiction'.

I've only known one true sex addict in my life and she was great. (Ok, TMI violation, but don't act like you didn't know that was coming.) The problem for her was that it's essentially crippled her in terms of being able to maintain a stable relationship. She requires sex multiple times per day so if you're dating her and you have a job that you go to every day, guess what? It isn't that she does not desire to be monogamous, she just has to have it.

All. The. Time.

And to all you guys out there thinking that's a dream woman, think again. lol

Oh, regarding Tiger. I've already stated my position - he's not a traditional 'sex addict'. He's just a horndog like any other college kid who is finally getting to taste total sexual freedom. Notice that not a single woman from Tiger's days at Stanford has come forward to claim she's slept with him. They're all recent. I don't have the complete timeline, but it's worth noticing that most have been with him in the past few years, since Earl's (his father) death.

The kid's every move was controlled as he was growing up and even into adulthood and so it's only natural that he would seek to make up for lost time. I know that many women are angry at Tiger (as if he cheated on them), but you can't argue with nature. You can fight it, but more often than not, nature is going to win in a case like this.

Tiger owes his family an apology and he's done that publicly. He doesn't owe the rest of us a damn thing, except to get back out there and start winning golf tournaments.

It's For Real This Time

Given the fluid nature of my life, I don't know that it's proper or even necessary to publish a 'here I am!' blog entry. If you're here at all, then you know me already and this whole exercise becomes a bit redundant.

I just realized that it's 4:59pm and the cable bill is due today. Oops. I meant to take care of that first thing this morning, but then I had to do this thing for the kid's school and after filling out that form and doing a little online shopping, I was too exhausted to continue and had to take a nap.

That's what you do when you're old.

Even though I 'shoulda been a blogger', I've actually been a forum guy for over 15 years. Yes, I'm so old that I predate Usenet. I embarked on my 'internet life' during the mailing list days in the early 90s and I'm still very good friends with some of those guys today. In fact, one of my best friends (and business partner) and I have known one another since back then. Incredible.

I'm currently active on about 6 different forums and my favorite continues to be GetBig.com. It's not for the faint at heart, but if you've got thick skin and a great sense of humor, you'd probably enjoy it there. Or maybe I'm just a sophomoric masochist.

I love Facebook, because it encourages us all to share, but while I'll still be talking about my daily adventures, I'm hoping that this new blog-forum thing will allow us to keep some of those great conversations going in order to bring more perspectives to the various discussions.

So, without further adieu, I welcome you to this blog and hope you all will enjoy reading along and sharing the ride with me. Cheers.

This Is Only A Test

Let's see what this thing can do. If this works, it's gold.

We Don't *Do* Normal

During this past weekend in Cleveland, I began thinking that I really should start a blog. Those who know me best have often asked me why I don't have one, but honestly, I never felt I had the time. Even though I love story-telling, being ADD - and also a flake - make it somewhat difficult to write like I used to. My ability to sit writing for extended periods has decreased as the cumulative amount of information in my head has increased.

Even now, I have no idea what I sat down to talk about. Isn't that what Twitter is for??